Friday, November 13, 2009

Where is my baby?

This morning was so wonderful!! IP woke up at 6:15 am when my alarm went off. I was still in bed when he decided to get ready for school. He was ready by 7:45 am and accompanied me to Sam's Club to buy some miscellaneous items for the store. It was a crisp November morning so he just put on a light jacket. As soon as I parked the car he opened the door and got down. While I was grabbing my keys and purse, he opened my door. What a gentleman he is!!!! (His Dad needs to learn something from him.)
As soon as we entered Sam's Club, they had free breakfast pastry and coffee for patrons. I picked one up for him and we started walking towards the pop aisle. He held on to the pastry, as he thought it was wrong to start eating without paying for it. He still did not want to eat it, in spite of being told that it is free -'because it is not good to eat in the store.'
After I was done, we started heading out and he walked right next to me.. straight and tall!!!
Since his jacket had the logo on the inner side of the collar at the back, he had the collar up and the front ears slightly folded! Gosh... where is my little baby? When did he grow up so much? I never knew IP, who until yesterday wore whatever I picked for him, was so fashion conscious.... Today I felt like I was walking with a big boy... not my baby anymore. There was no 'I want to sit in the cart', 'I want to walk', 'Can I push the cart?'..... I did not have to remind him to hurry up or walk faster.
The entire trip was so calm and peaceful except for the toy aisle. The big boy who accompanied me to Sam's Club became my baby again!! If it wasn't for the Bakugans.....as much as I hate them, I love them for showing me that my baby is still there within the big boy who will soon be eight next week!!!
I LOVE YOU IP!!! You totally rock!!!

Wednesday, November 4, 2009

Great thinking!!

Upon given a choice whether SP5 should buy a $25.00 tub of legos or $29.00 one, he picked the former. His logic was very simple, " I picked the cheaper one so that we can save the money and buy a house in California."

Sunday, August 16, 2009

I really have a lot to learn from my kids!

All summer long IP7 and his two other friends must have prayed at least once a day that they are in Mr. B's second grade class coz he is very funny and COOL. All of us moms were also a bit nervous because each of us wished that their wish came true. I even secretly prayed before heading to school on the day the class lists were posted. At school, the first thing IP7 did was to scroll down Mr. B's class list. His name was in Mr. B's class. Unfortuantely, his friends got a different teacher.I was super excited whenI found out that he made it to Mr. B's class. For a moment IP7 was excited, but soon the excitement started fading away. I kept bugging him, but he wouldn't tell me the real reason. Then, after about half an hour of my cajoling and nagging, he said," Mom, I am happy that my dream came true, but I am also sad because my friends' didn't."
I was speechless for a few seconds!
My gosh..... my seven year old had said such a big thing that I as his parent had easily overlooked. I was so self centered! All I thought about was my son's dream and it coming true. I was a little upset that his friends couldn't make it, but I got over it quicker than a blink. I guess it was a minor thing for me as an adult, but it was such a huge thing for those 3 seven year olds. I guess its these little things that matter to them the most.
On the other hand, IP7's other friend who went to check the list after we did, was super excited for IP7 for making it in Mr. B's class though he did not! He borrowed his mom's cell phone and called us from school and said, "Guess what IP7, your dream has come true!"
These boys care for each other so much that they are happy in the other's achievements and sad in the other's loss w/o worrying about themselves.
This is truly 'The Art of Living'!
I love you IP7!!

Saturday, August 15, 2009

Time to get organized!


Warning: A very old post from last year that I completely forgot about.:(

It is back to school time. This year I have pledged to be on top of things 'coz I will have a kindergartener and a 2nd grader! The amount of loose papers coming home is unimaginable. The first thing I needed to do was to organize their work zone. I had this huge empty wall in the boys' room that I planned to utilize. I found these magnetic strips at Ikea for $0.79 a piece including the magnets. That was a bargain!I got three of them so that I could have a strip for each kid and one for the magnetic containers that hold pushpins and paperclips. I found the magnetic containers at Target. I also braided a long piece of yarn that became the rope to hang their art work. I found these pails at Target also. I filled them up with all their writing and coloring supplies so that everything has a home.

Sunday, May 10, 2009

Happy Mother's Day!!!

How I love all my special days....... because for my kids a special day starts with breakfast in bed! So, here we go.... my mother's day (05/10/09) was supposed to start with breakfast in bed, but because of an early morning phone call from my cousin, I woke up before the bunch! Well, there I sat on the sofa waiting for my tea, watching Good Morning America!!! 30 minutes later the heads started peeping one by one. There was a lot of running back and forth between my bedroom and the kids' bedroom. I could hear a few whispers and even snarls. After a lot a of commotion, hubby walks out with the gift while my kids hand me the cards and hugs. The gift holder hands the gift over to the kids and they do the honors. It was beautiful....... they got me a digital photo frame and for once hubby had preplanned something. He had loaded all the pictures on the frame so as soon as he plugged it in, I could see my beautiful kids on there!!! I felt like there was a tsunami of maternal juices in my body. Everything maternal... feelings, instincts, emotions, etc was oozing out. As my kids are growing up I am gradually experiencing some of the feelings that the Indian television moms experience like tears rolling down when a child says or does something.

I experienced it recently at SP5's Mother's day event at school on last Wednesday. All the kids were lined up in his classroom and all the moms were at at the most 2 feet distance from them. The teachers had taught them beautiful songs that SP5 sang looking at me straight into my eyes. I could not control my emotions... I had a wide smile on my face and my eyes welled up for the first time at something so simple. It was not the words of the song or the event.. I think it was just how SP5 was looking straight into my eyes and singing as if he truly means each and every word that he sang. ( I think he did!)

The songs were something like this:

I love you MOMMY, my dearest MOMMY
You make me happy when I am sad
I want to tell you
I really love you
When I am with you I am so glad!

The second song was:


Thank you MOM for all your hugs, all your hugs, all your hugs
It feels good to me!
Thank you MOM for all your kisses, all your kisses, all your kisses
It feels good to me!
Thank you MOM for all you love, all your love, all your love
It feels good to me!

IP7 on the other hand is a whole different game. He wants to please me all the time! The first time he did something that made my eyes well up was when was 2.5 years old. He brought a leaf from his morning walk with my MIL for me. The first song he sang for me was:


My MOM is special, my MOM is special
Do you see, do you see?
I love when she loves me
I love when she loves me
Lucky me, lucky me!
(Where is thumbkin tune)
I really like his idea of Mother's day. All he wants me to do on that day is RELAX!! He actually let me do it. Hubby took care of the kids all day and I went shopping! Unfortunately, I did not find any good deals so I returned empty handed :((

After a long time I truly felt like it was a special day that I did not want to end! At night after tucking my kids in bed, I thought, ' Thank you Lord for my beautiful kids who shower their unconditional love on me!'

Saturday, April 25, 2009

Thank you, IP7 and SP5!

Here are some of the compliments I have received from my kids that make me wanna live life all over again:
1. Mom, you look beautiful today.
2. Mom, you look like a flower today.
3. Mom, you look like a princess today.
4. Mom, I like your T-shirt. (This is when SP5 was 3 years old and was seeing me in an Indian outfit after a year or so.)
5. Mom, you are the best (est) mom in the world.
6. Mom, I brought this flower for you from the park. It reminded me of you.
7. Mom, this color looks very nice on you.
8. Mom, you read that story so nicely to me.
9. Mom, thank you for feeding me. The food was really tasty. (though IP7 almost gagged on it)
10. Mom, I love you and I never want to live away from you.

Here are some compliments that they have received from me:
1. Good job, I am proud of you!
2. Very good, I am really proud of you!
3. Good job!
4. Good job!
5. Very good job!
6. Okay, okay, good job!
7. Excellent job!
8. Good job!
9. Good job!
10. Good job!

I have a lot to learn from my kids, 7 and 5 years old!

Boundless Emotions

On April 8th 2009, my sister-in-law gave birth to a beautiful baby boy in India. That's when I was in tears -tears of joy and regret! Joy because he was MY nephew. I felt an instant bond with him right away. Regret because of being so far away from my family, not being able to be with them in the moments of joy. I could not even make it to my SIL's baby shower.

Well, but what is done is done. I do not want to hang on to the past. I want to look forward to the future and the future is Puneet (PM0)! That's what we have named my little nephew. When he was born I felt the joy in my heart that cannot be expressed. I just felt as if I got a new baby (w/o the pregnancy and labor). I wanted to hold him, squeeze him tightly and love him endlessly! As a matter of fact even my kids showed an instant connection with him. It's really amazing!! I think he revived my maternal instincts. In fact, if I look back, at least in the past 3 years, I have always loved my kids but my parenting style was turning into following instructions of the parenting manual (the invisible one that exists) and checking off on the tasks accomplished like read to kids, brush before bed, feed healthy foods, etc. I had lost the idea of enjoying my kids and the time I get with them.

Coming back to PM0,every time I hear him cry on the phone, I get the same feelings I did when my kids cried. I gave massages to my kids, but when it comes to PM0, I don't like the massage lady. Neither do I agree with my mom's beliefs of massaging and that too with besan! Why do you have to do that to the poor infant who is at your mercy? I do not believe something is good for my nephew if it causes him discomfort.

On an ending note, one more reason I love him is because PM0 resembles me. :)))

Wednesday, February 18, 2009

2009

On New Year's day there are tons of resolutions made and by Valentine's day they are broken!! I have been a victim of RMB syndrome for so long that I have stopped making any resolutions. O btw, RMB syndrome is not a disease... it is Resolution Make and Break Syndrome... that I just discovered while I was typing this.

During 2009 I intend to:
  • be more active on my blog
  • be more involved with my kids (why do I always feel that I don't do enough? Am I a normal Mom?)
  • follow the 3 R's religiously
  • set realistic expectations from my kids
  • eat healthy and lose weight (its my intention not my resolution)
  • find cheap activities for my kids
  • be more creative at home and implement 'Count your blessings not your sorrows and Think positive and move on' in my life.
I want to teach the last one to my kids also without making it sound like a lecture and boring. Gosh..... the joys of mommyhood are endless!!

That reminds me of a cute incident that SP4 told me happened at school...

SP4: Mom, you know President Lincoln was a very nice President.
Me: O yeah! What did he do?
SP4: He said slavery is not good. Do you know what are slaves?
Me: No, can you tell me please?
SP4: Slaves are when people sell people for things. President Lincoln ran in the elections, but he lost.
Me: Then, what happened?
SP4: Then, he ran and ran and ran and then he won!!!

More next time... I hope by the next post I have increased my creativity. I want to take scrap booking lessons... but don't know when..